What Makes a Good submissive male?

I’m an avid reader of all things kink related especially the dynamic between a Femdom and Her submissive or slave.   Recently I’ve had a few really interesting conversations with some submissive men and we were talking about the difficulty some have asking for what they need from their Mistress.  So let’s delve into some important things to think about with that most important essential sex organ….the brain ;).

Communication & trust are essential in a D/S dynamic

A Mistress, Dominant or top has an important role in setting the scene and creating the back drop of your experience.  However, none if this can occur if you aren’t up front about what your true needs are as a submissive. I’ve had this experience and the results are a disastrous nightmare at best . Maybe you are not self aware enough to know what exactly it is you’re looking for?  Self and other honesty is paramount here.  You can get no great reward without great risk.  It takes courage to leap into the vulnerability of self disclosure.

Important Questions to Ask Yourself as a submissive

1.  What are my ultimate goals in submitting? Everyone is different and being self aware enough to answer this question honestly is hugely important.

2.  What and how do I find the most meaning in being dominated?(Stick with Me boys they may seem like similar questions but the subtlety of differences are important for you to think about)

3.  How would I define my ideal experience in submission?  Use your senses imagine all the details it reveals a lot about what your true desires are.

4.  Is this purely a physical thing? (e.g. am I just a adrenaline junky/ pain slut/masochist?)  If that’s the case you need your opposite polarity, a sexy sadist.

5.  Is submission a catalyst for something more for you? (e.g. connection, self & other exploration, etc).

I’d love to hear from you!  Feel free to hit Me up on Yahoo IM or via email for fun discussion. Stay tuned for part two next installment of the Jennitiation Series : Excuse Me How Dare You Bottom Me from the Top while Topping From the Bottom.  Say that three times fast with your legs over your head while masturbating to the beat of Opan Gangnam Style.