If you’re anything like Me, you’re constantly questioning why things are the way they are; governments, cultures, galaxies and especially people. Awhile back I had someone ask Me why they were into what they’re into. Having only the current conversation to go on naturally this Mistress didn’t know fuck all about how or why they were into that particular kink. What I find interesting about that question whenever someone asks it is there is sometimes an emotional undercurrent to the asking…which I interpret as “What the hell is wrong with me?” Sexuality is probably one of the most interesting topics of study because it is as diverse as the people who engage in it. As a lifestyle Mistress and phone Domme I’ve learned quite a bit, but I’m not arrogant enough to think I’ve got it all figured out. In fact I’m pretty certain I’ve only scratched the surface. The three questions of kink are is it safe, is it sane, and lastly is it consensual?? Then I would ask does engaging in this cosa strokestra keep Me from functioning normally? For instance the 40 year old dude that spends all day in Mom’s basement jerking it and getting carpal tunnel instead of getting a job. *giggle*
Excellent! Safe, sane, and consensual. That’s My mantra too, Miss Jenna, as I think You probably already know! And when a boy(?) still feels badly about what he enjoys outside of those parameters, I generally resort to, well, what’s that getting you, feeling bad about it? Are you going to stop? Have you tried to stop and failed? Well then you can either pursue other avenues to get yourself to stop this completely harmless, kinky thing, you can incorporate your shame into what arouses you, or you can just accept the fact that your guilt serves no purpose, and that you’ll continue to indulge no matter how you feel! *giggle*
I think ultimately the individual has to decide if the kink is beneficial….meaning does it add value, complexity, and self sexploration or is it a compulsory act without will. Thanks for the insightful response Ms. Rachel, you know I love to beat down a bitch boy with you on two Mistress calls ;).