People often ask Me where I met My subs, and I tell them at the bookstore. I love that My subbies are all brilliant and extremely talented in their own unique ways. We appreciate each other not only in a Fem Dom way, but also intellectually. We push each other to think and experience in different ways, ask the hard questions, and are also lovers and friends. Some people think that being lovers or friends are mutually exclusive to the title. I say you can’t have a truly good lover if they aren’t a good friend. The best passions aren’t the idealized fleeting flames that burn hot and quick only to leave ashes and disappointment behind. I believe the best passion between people is shared with mutual values, respect, and compassion. The slow hot smolder that is fueled by what I call Fem dom sapiosexual flirtation and sintellectual sensuality are wonderful. I think when you have this type chemistry it translates to alchemical sexual magic. Magic is real, but it is within you not in some stone or hidden in some esoteric doctrine. The great thing about this type of engagement is it invites mindfulness to experience the other person fully and appreciate them holistically. I believe it all happens between the ears, not just between the legs.
There is so much truth to these words. You are always so insightful in your musings, Ms Jenna. I’d have to agree and add that the best passions tend to be rare as well. That is what motivates us to treat them as if they were precious. Of course one has to be able to see that first. Hence, age, wisdom, and experience.
I see passion like a garden that needs to be tended to if you want the best fruits you need to be willing to do the hard work it takes to cultivate it 🙂 and I couldn’t agree more Ms. Alexis!! 🙂
Truer words. Have never been spoken