Why a Mistress Loves Owning a Simp
First off what is Simpin’? Well according to the urban dictionary a simp is: Someone who does way too much for a person they like: Brian the simp: I bought her a car and a whole ass house and we not even dating! While according to the Merriam Webster dictionary a simp means a silly or foolish person. This term was appropriated and used as derogatory slang by Gen Z males to insult other males for fawning over a woman. My question is, why is this a bad thing? As a dominant Woman I enjoy having a stable of simps to do My bidding and want nothing more than to make Me happy. I think for fragile males this is humiliating. When men shame other men for being a “simp” this is a type of innocuous misogyny that goes under the radar for most. I think it is also kink shaming; because let’s face it society has unrealistic expectations for both genders and submissive men get a lot of unnecessary bullshit for wanting a Woman to be in charge. Simpin’ ain’t easy in the wake of the dying patriarchy. In My experience submissive men are some of the strongest most intelligent people I’ve ever met and they know themselves much better than the pseudo alpha males out there.
What Makes a Simp Special
What I enjoy most about Simpin’ is that their highest joy is making the Woman happy. One year for My birthday one of My simpy subs made Me breakfast in bed and planned a whole day of doing things that I absolutely loved. We had a blast going to an art museum, doing a little shopping, and having dinner together. The night ended with a playful humiliation session which he absolutely loved and a foot rub for Me!!! Sometimes he’ll send Me flowers or get Me a beautiful house plants—because I adore them so much. It is a mutually beneficial relationship and I wouldn’t want it any other way and neither would he except he has alluded to wanting to marry Me. Marriage is an institution….who the hell would willing put themselves in one, not this chica!!!
Mistress Delights in Her Simps
Every time he sees Me, he makes Me feel like I’m the most beautiful Woman in the world and he treats Me like royalty. He knows his penis is too small to satisfy Me, but he tries to make up for his short comings in other ways. Usually by showing his adoration domestically or physically by giving Me a massage or a mani pedi. He is so motivated to make Me happy that he actually went to classes to learn how to do these things for Me. He gives better massages than some of the professionals I’ve gone to and that’s because he puts his love and adoration into it which is palpable.
A Fem Dom and Her Simp
Our current technological era has done a great deal to erode away at human intimacy. You have everything from machine driven dicks & vaginas to AI being engineered to be companions for lonely and/or socially inept people. Although these things may be comfort for some they are missing the spark of true human connection. My simp and I have a wonderful connection and despite Me teasing him (which he loves), he knows that I don’t take him for granted and I appreciate who he is on a core level. I’m hoping that with all the changes happening around gender expectations that toxic masculinity and femininity can evolve into a more inclusive and less derogatory definitions of male servitude and submission. Simpin’ aint’ easy, but usually if something is worthwhile it is rarely easy at all.
Hello Jenna!
This blog post reminded me of a line from that TV show “Bones”, I think in Season 2 but I’m not positive. I generally do not like law enforcement shows, but Emily Deschanel…enough said!
Anyway the line is something like “Anthropologically speaking, men give gifts to women as a mark of ownership.”
It’s just a TV show, that line is bullshit, the truth is anthropologists have studied gift-giving and (quoting from an actual academic paper) “Gift giving is an intriguing, universal behavior that has yet to be interpreted satisfactorily by social scientists.”
When I watch that episode, what always goes through my mind at that phrase is “She is confusing men with dominant women, and is confusing gifts with a collar and chastity cage…”
My gift giving certainly is NOT any kind of mark of ownership, but rather, a declaration that I am hers for the taking if I’m lucky enough for her to want to claim me.
There is so much pressure in our society for men to “successful wolves” that it overwhelms many men, causing with some of us anyway for balance to be sought in the bedroom where we can shed that societal pressure and be submissive to a strong and sensual woman.
And that’s why many of us like to simp. It’s a symbol of our dedication and willingness to do just about anything for her, to the best of our abilities, in hopes that yes, she will choose us. It’s different than findom, simping is giving from the heart to the woman who has captured our heart.
I’m glad your simp makes you feel like the most beautiful Woman in the world. That is what he wants to do, and he is succeeding, and quite frankly, you deserve it!
To please you is a dream that is so precious.
Dominant women like yourself puts me in the mood- so grateful and happy.
Great post! Been having this fantasy for a long time now… Thinking simping is an excellent way of serving Women without it being so obvious that you´re a submissive male, with it being disguised as chivalry and just being a gentleman instead! Even simple everyday things like just opening doors, offer to carry bags, let Women go ahead of me in line, help her with anything that she wants help with and always putting Women far above myself… I´m thrilled every time someone gladly lets me do things for her so she won´t have to! Using me for her own comfort… It´s a good point of adressing the problem of how it´s perceived by other males… Given that it´s “against the norm” for guys to be submissive. Maybe that´s what holding many back?
In one of my early jobs, there was a woman who was very flirty in general… Very sexy too – often deep cleavage, really long nails, high heels etc… The one every guy probably had fantasies about but knew they couldn´t get in a million years… She obviously knew it herself! Her power over males. And that she could have any man wrapped around her finger. She often used to ask me for favors and help with things in a flirty way… And it literally made my day! Came up to me and stood really close, asking me if I could take a look at her computer etc with the prettiest smile on her face while playing with my hair, twirling it around her finger or tracing her fingertip over my chest… I would just say yes every time, to anything she wanted while feeling my eyes drift down to her ample cleavage. She smiled and gave me an air kiss and then turned around and wiggled her butt as she walked away… Giving me a smile over her shoulder, probably to see my reaction. I loved those days! Only thing better would have been if she was a bit more… demanding. I´ve always kept dreaming of someone like that.
I´ve always wanted to serve a spoiled Princess (especially a blonde bombshell!) who is really pretty and sexy, but also bossy, bratty, bitchy, demanding, high maintenance and spoiled rotten… Used to getting anything she wants, expects to be spoiled, pampered, put on a pedestal and treated like a princess 24/7 and have guys do everything for her… The true Spoiled Princess type who won´t do a thing herself to risk getting dirty or breaking a nail. One of my biggest fantasies is simping for a girl like that who likes having me completely wrapped around her finger and at her beck and call… Who would call me at any minor inconvenience and ask me for favors and help with things all the time… Giving me a really hard time! Even more amazing if she knew that I liked her being bitchy and demanding, only caring about herself…
The title made me remember a similar title, of a song from a character in a movie that would be the ultimate dream to experience if she was human: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-M6UYwaYRqw
As strange as it may seem to most guys, there are some of us who actually like females like that and are even thrilled to be treated a bit badly! 😀 😉
I really appreciated this post. I (now) know I was a “simp” before I ever heard that word. It gives me some language that helps. I had not really seen it discussed like this before so thank you. I was a simp early on and have been since then. The first time I had a female friend who let me stay around her and I ran all over for her. It was (frankly) thrilling for me to be around her. I was never her real “date” or “boyfriend”. Even though it was not really directly discussed I knew (she made it clear) I was too small for her and could not satisfy her and I would have been terrified to even try. I knew there was not really any chance of that.
She treated me like a “girlfriend” but I actually knew that her girlfriends would not do the things I would. We were totally unequal. I knew that but sort of did not think about it a lot. She let me run errands for her and even though I knew she asked me to do a lot that she would not ask other guys – I felt rewarded in that I would get to spend a little time with her. She was usually extremely light and nice or warm when she would ask me to do errands. Inside myself I think I knew it was a kind of requirement that I say “yes”. Like if I did not do the errands stuff -that would be it. And (while embarrassing to admit) I just wanted her to let me be around her some.
She openly dated guys. And was fairly open with me about what she liked in men – even penis size. I really like a guy who is a real “man” down there – you know what I mean? She would say that and there was nothing for me to say. I knew I was “ruled out”. She also said she would not be “comfortable” really if I was dating anyone. She did not say I couldn’t but….kind of did. It was like she was allowed to (and did all the time) and I was not really – not if I wanted to stay her friend. (which I really, really wanted).
One thing I appreciated about your post was that it seemed to indicate that it is “ok” to be a simp. It IS embarrassing but also it is sort of this “agreement” or something – that you can do things for a girl/woman that make her happy enough to stay around her and that it can be thrilling for you – even if there is frustrating as well.
I know she knew that I had fantasies about her. But she sort of made me keep them in a certain place but I know she knew as she indicated in a way that she knew. That embarrassed me but I could not deny it.
Hi Mistress Jenna–i’m responding not to this post (although it’s great, and You know how much i would love to be Your obedient boy–W/we both know it!), but to this photo of You. It’s a favorite of mine, Mistress Jenna, if i may say so. i love Your smile. You are so beautiful!
Oh scottie, when are you going to give Me a call in your little whisper laden voice begging to submit to Me again?
Thank you so much for your thoughtful reply, owen! How has this experience shape who you are as a “simp”?
Oh I’m very aware that I’m a simp’s dream diva, would love to talk with you sometime about it!!
Awww gigi, ty for your sweet sentiments, I miss you sweetie!!
Thank you for your sweet and thoughtful repy, you should hit Me up on Skype sometime and we can chat jenna.swann3 🙂
No, you’re right simpin ain’t easy. I’m a huge simp. I went on a date with this one girl, we went to a fancy, expensive restaurant. Then we went to a party at a friend’s house. She was dancing with this one guy most of the time. Then she volunteered me to drive him home, which I did. When we got to his place she said she had to use the bathroom and went inside with him. About and hour to 80 mins later my date comea out of the house acting like this guy didn’t just make her a new woman. If that’s not big simpin I don’t know what is
Oh My what lovely simp you are alex, I’d love to add you to My simp harem!!