Human Sexuality & Submission
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I’m taking a really interesting psychology class this semester about personality and it’s impossible for Me not to apply it to being a Mistress. The human mind is a dichotomy of the predictable and chaotic. I think this really rears its pointy horns in human sexuality and especially in the D/s dynamic. I often get asked the question “Why am I like this?” or “What do you think made me this way?”
Styles of Submission
Men are primarily sexual beings and this truth seems to fall deaf on the ears of some women. Aside from being driven by those factors making some type of meaning out of that reality seems to logically follow. What man reading this hasn’t felt his heart quicken and palms sweat in the presence of a charismatic that oozes confident sexuality? Your thoughts quickly turn to sexual submission and you feel compelled in some way to act out these powerful emotions.
Pleasing Your Mistress
How does this translate into pleasing your Mistress? Knowing your style of submission is probably a most beneficial thing for both a Dom and sub. Do you value sexual submission (e.g oral servicing etc)? Or perhaps you actually like doing chores for a Dominant and feeling useful in that way? Maybe the activities related to sexual submission are just that for you;activities. It could be that the BDSM rituals that go with bondage, impact play and so forth are in and of themselves what you are after in a masochistic sense. In getting what you want it’s important to know what you want. Sometimes finding out takes exploration or sexploration as I like to call it. Looking forward to sexploring the depths and diversity with you!
Excellent post, Ms. Jenna. To know where you’re going (aka seeking out and getting what you want), it certainly helps to know who you are and what you want – and that certainly holds very true for our submissives. It can be quite the adventure to help a sub find his or her submissive identity and discover his/her personal submissive style. Leading a submissive (whether new, inexperienced, confused, even established) by the hand down the path of self-exploration and submissive enlightenment can be such an intriguing and gratifying learning experience on both parts (for Dom and sub). Don’t you think?
I think helping another human being discover and express themselves is a beautiful thing. Although society may view what We do as Mistresses as unconventional it’s just another vehicle to express and experience in different ways. 🙂
You are such a brainiac, Ms Jenna! So, nurture vs nature, or are we predisposed to be what we are? I cannot imagine either one of being anything but in control!
It seems I always get the power horses, you know executives by day and submissive by night. They always say they make decisions all day and don’t want to in their sessions. Too much for their heads to deal with! That’s why they need us!
Great post!
Why thank you Ms. Meredith *blush* adjusts glasses. I think nature and nurture are always going to be an interdependent thing kind of like the what comes first the chicken or the egg debate :). Yes the type A personalities are usually the ones that need and crave Us the most so they don’t have to think about anything for awhile. Aren’t they lucky We’re here to give them a cerebral vacation? 😉
beautiful recording Miss Jenna. A true submissive is a wonder to behold. One must be cruel only to be kind, as the bard wrote a long time back. What he alluded to is catharsis. A D/s relationship is cathartic to domme and sub if it’s played in a nurturing and negotiated frame. True, this explores the shadow side. We cannot have light without shadow.
Thank you for your insight and comments Ms. Cassandra!A shadow unacknowledged can become a pretty ruthless and formidable inner enemy if it isn’t seen and integrated into a person. I agree with you about the D/s dynamic being cathartic for both parties involved. Each side has it’s own unique strength and when they’re balanced it’s magic. Neither the light or dark can be seen in its own unique exquisite beauty with out the other.
You captured my attention with this posting, Ms Jenna. My background is in the field of Psychology. Every day…every call…I am thinking about the human mind, human nature, sexuality…it is fascinating and wonderful. You are so right about men being “primarily sexual beings”. Women can ignore that, but they do so at their own risk. I say share your fantasies, explore them together. And if your partner won’t…you know where to come for that. Great posting!
I’m always surprised at how many hang ups people still have about sex in this day and age. I think that’s what makes phone sex a wonderful harmless way to explore their fantasies without worry of judgement or rejection. I mean there might be some playful humiliation involved but we all know that’s the hurts so good kinda candy our guys love ;).
Ms. Jenna, First I want to say how exciting that you are taking this psychology class on personality. I loved taking psychology classes and plan on taking more when I go back to school. What a fantastic point you make about how so many women tend to forget that men are such sexual beings. Women are sexual beings too. The differences fascinate me.
Knowing ones submissive style makes for much better play. I say, it’s okay if you are not always sure on what you want. Most of the time guys know what they don’t really want and that is a big step in the right direction. Thank you for an interesting read. I just love your blog it’s more than just phone sex entertainment, it has heart!
Have a great semester! XoXo
Sounds like an interesting class. When I was in college , I took one on deviant behavior , which was fascinating. It is good to be able to carry on a conversation like this with a caller. It seems the question, “Is there something wrong with me?” comes up quite a bit. Even in 2015, people are still embarrassed by their sexual desires. Tell them Jenna, it’s harmless fun!
Glad you enjoyed Ms. Andi! I definitely agree both men and woman are sexual beings for sure, but I think the double standard still darkens our doorsteps from time to time. I’m still astonished at how often women in particular get shamed for being sexual and I think it’s silly. The human mind is one of those things that I could never get tired of learning about. Every mind I encounter is a different universe. Thank you for the meaningful compliment and taking the time to read & comment on My blog :).
Abnormal Psych was one of My favorites. As long as it’s safe, sane and consensual it’s totally harmless fun….and what fun it is >:)!!!
I’m both a sexual and domestic submissive even in my marriage. My wife is the aggressor in bed. When it comes to chores around the house we split the cooking and cleaning with me doing all the laundry. I like to think if I was born a genetic female I would make a pretty good wife for an Alpha Male.
Good luck in your psych class Miss Jenna.
🙂 would you prefer an Alpha Male to serving an Alpha Female? I’m just curious. I’m always surprised at how many gurls get married when they prefer the pole to the hole. I adore this class and I’m sure it will give Me a lot of insight to the subbies I deal with on a daily basis. Thanks Stephie!
Mistress Jenna,
I am not sure if I had only one to choose which I would go with. Though I lean to the Alpha Male. When I got married I thought this was all a stage. When I got married I did prefer the hole to the pole. But its become more than that in time with me leaning more towards the pole and less turned on by the hole.
I definitely think the class will help you in understand and control your subbies even more so than you already do. 🙂
I don’t think you’re alone steph sexuality changes and evolves over time as we do and I think self honesty is a huge deal. Thanks for the encouragement in My classes!